500 Days of Summer !!

500 days of summer !!

No it has nothing to do with summer season. It is a Hollywood movie (a love story) which revolves around a gal known as SUMMER and how she influences a person,s life in 500 days. The lead actor (dont remember the name ..lets call him X) and lead actress (summer) are supposedly in love and then one day suddenly the gal (summer) marries someone else voluntarily.

A scene towards the last touched me a lot. After her marriage the gal comes to meet Mr. X, and X wants to know why she married someone else. She replied that with Mr. X she never felt the need to settle down and when she met this another guy (Mr. Y), she felt she had to settle down. And apparently she could not give any logical reason for not settling with Mr. X besides her feeling. However she did confess that she still loved Mr. X and had a fabulous time with him . I kind off loved and hated the girl at the same time. I loved her for the candid confession of the exact feelings. However i guess that is the precise reason i hated her !!

But yes i think that scene really shook me. Why are we so concerned in defining the relationship ? Why we constantly give input based on where we can take this relationship ? Why dont we focus on the present and use it to the fullest with our loved one ? Is it so important to tag every relationship? I mean if i look at my relation also, all i have been doing is trying to define the future prospect of the relationship that too to no vain. Why the hell didnt i spend those beautiful moments i could have spent with her without thinking of where it was going and where i wanted to take it ? The only logical explanation i can garner at this moment is the fear of being emotionally hurt.

However i feel that i have been totally wrong throughout. There is absolute no guarantee that any relationship would last the distance or not. For example, there may be mutual love between a boy and a girl, yet they may not be able to take it to marriage due to umpteen external factors. Even if they marry, they may not lead a good relationship or may decide to separate in the future. All these are found to result in a lot of pain. Hence i guess the best thing is to live and enjoy the time you get to spend with your loved one without being too analytical on where it is actually heading (Bcoz most likely you would not be able to control the ultimate fate)...

Just one last thing for the gal i still love, if u happen to read this someday in your life .. I would like to tell you "I am sorry for not giving you what i cud have during those 2-3 years" (just kept thinking about the net 30 years that never came )..

Defining the Limit !!

The most difficult for me has always been defining the limit. Every passion that goes out of control becomes a obsession. But to judiciously draw a line between the two is an ardent task. I can always think of that particular scene in the movie BORDER when Sunny Deol walks towards the Pakistan Border and terms it as courage while his colleague calls it insanity. Even though the task of identifying limits may be pain taking but it is definitely worth the pain as probably there are very few things in our life where are absolute must for our living.

I remember during our 11-12th standard at DPS, we were literally trained as terrorists for cracking IIT-JEE. We were constantly taught that our sole purpose to be born on this planet is to get through the prestigious gates of IIT (seems ridiculous but true). I was amongst one of the many students who believed this to be true and IIT became a passion and dont know when an obsession. Similarly during engineering days, i kept preparing for civil services with a lot of passion, just to sit here five years down the line, not having even filled the UPSC form even once.

I loved/love (confused..) this gal whom i wanted/want to settle with for the past 3 years. But now i think the right time has passed and it stays with me with just an obsession whose utility will end as soon as the mission would be accomplished. I think probably these are the three instances in life when i have been not able to segregate my passion and obsession. Ironically i have been unsuccessful in achieving all the three, but yet i claim to lead a happy life at this very moment.

Bottom line is " DEFINE THE LIMITS, THERE ARE THINGS WHERE YOU CAN UTILIZE YOUR PASSION WITHOUT GETTING INTO OBSESSION "

Random Thought XIV

Boy to Girl: I can commit suicide by jumping from your ego to your IQ !!