Well i have been reading quite a lot offlate during my training at chennai and i guess i have come across a very basic reality which i believe tht we really do nt understand.
"Most human beings behave in a certain manner because they expect themselves to be treated in the same manner by the other person"
The basic assumption ofcourse being that the person is behaving naturally ...And since the natural behaviour varies with relationship so does the expectation..
What essentially i want to say is tht we are unconsiousally always setting up examples which we want people to imitate.Further if we dwell on this statement i believe we can draw the conclusion that intrinsically at a subconcious level human beings are selfish , hence they always set up examples to imulate... Mind u im nt saying tht humanity and charity are illusionery concepts. I am a great believer and implementer of humanism..
Another explanation we can draw is also that every human being thinks his rationale is right so are his actions unless questioned...But i guess there are ppl including me i guess who actually enjoy their rationale being challenged bcoz i guess whenevr something is questioned evolution happens... and hence it is the prime source of self development...
Hence within the limited ambit of my experiences and acquaintances i wud tend to confer more with the EXAMPLE SETTING theory..... The implications of this could be pretty profound..
Imagine i meet a person X and i wnt to have a freindship with him all i need to do is study his/her behaviour with his/her friends and i m pretty sure i will get a very good idea of wht X expects from friendship...Weather i m actually able to deliver it or not is a different matter..
I do nt think that most ppl actually understand this... I believe that understanding this small thing cn go a long way in removing the small operational issues existing in ones relationship..
Please note that all views accepted are as per my own whims and have no absolute authenticity besides my limited purview of thinking....
